tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7026450255174007652.post1009692182301884489..comments2024-03-27T21:50:33.178-04:00Comments on Betrayed Wives' Club: The Ashley Madison Hack: Let's Think of the WivesEllehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13470499558973726796noreply@blogger.comBlogger41125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7026450255174007652.post-42000943239588041972015-08-26T16:14:20.835-04:002015-08-26T16:14:20.835-04:00I just wanted to let everyone know that the AM fac...I just wanted to let everyone know that the AM facebook page has been down since last Friday (Aug. 21). It may be delusional, but I like to think we had a little bit to do with that. The reasons I think this is that the Twitter page is still up so I think it was facebook's decision. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7026450255174007652.post-36673068699919209772015-08-05T17:08:35.428-04:002015-08-05T17:08:35.428-04:00Alone,
Such a good point. When "our" st...Alone, <br />Such a good point. When "our" story is taken from us, it contributes to the lack of control we already feel. One more way in which we've lost agency.Ellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13470499558973726796noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7026450255174007652.post-46146480856235152152015-08-05T05:02:18.023-04:002015-08-05T05:02:18.023-04:00I found out my husband had looked on this awful si...I found out my husband had looked on this awful site. The catch phrase about life being short why not have an affair is enough to make me burst into tears. Whilst I think it is fantastic that it could cause harm to the site I think of all the innocent people - wives and children who would have to live with the actions of someone else. I think the one thing that has made things bearable for me is knowing that people don't know and I have control over who I tell if I want to tell. I have chosen to keep this between my husband and myself. It is so unfair to take this control away from those poor wives. They have done nothing wrong and now not only have to deal with the emotional roller coaster that their lives have now become but everyone knows and some who don't understand will judge them. I hope they have strength and courage to get through this. It is hard enough when people don't know I'm not sure I could do this if they did. Alonenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7026450255174007652.post-45185955565371734322015-08-04T10:34:50.079-04:002015-08-04T10:34:50.079-04:00Lynn
I've been traveling with my family and n...Lynn<br /><br />I've been traveling with my family and not near a computer for very long. Just want to send you BIG LOVE and you're in my thoughts and prayers. As all of you are who post here....may we find.....<br /><br />Coraggio E Forza (strength and courage)Valkyriehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02185442228341503805noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7026450255174007652.post-39794717786306881322015-08-03T10:53:22.325-04:002015-08-03T10:53:22.325-04:00Lynn
I just read your post and wanted to let you k...Lynn<br />I just read your post and wanted to let you know I am sorry for your loss. Alonenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7026450255174007652.post-22287493947961049032015-07-31T13:07:37.953-04:002015-07-31T13:07:37.953-04:00I love this blog and how we support and validate e...I love this blog and how we support and validate each other. How we truly feel each others pain and suffering. It seems for we older women all the crappy things in life happen despite our suffering from the pain of betrayal and infidelity and it makes it so much harder to cope with the eventual things that happen naturally in life.<br /><br />All you women here are wonderful and supportive and I need to express my gratitude to all of you for sharing and supporting.TryingHardhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11598084690617343428noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7026450255174007652.post-66444287311421903512015-07-30T22:03:53.331-04:002015-07-30T22:03:53.331-04:00Thanks you all, this support is so appreciated esp...Thanks you all, this support is so appreciated especially now. I love you all and I mean it. Yes, I felt every hug, every thought, every prayer. Keep you updated. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17219895095283341385noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7026450255174007652.post-21423117885635624722015-07-30T10:45:35.747-04:002015-07-30T10:45:35.747-04:00article by Rick Reynolds at Affair Recovery: googl...article by Rick Reynolds at Affair Recovery: google 'The Ashley Madison Hack - Surviving Discovery.' - direct link is v long.<br /><br />People who need this may not know where to find it. Irisnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7026450255174007652.post-68471056425046058922015-07-29T17:07:40.113-04:002015-07-29T17:07:40.113-04:00Oh Lynn, I am so sorry.Oh Lynn, I am so sorry.Steamnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7026450255174007652.post-88416918443214313682015-07-29T14:30:49.190-04:002015-07-29T14:30:49.190-04:00Lynn Pain my heart aches for you and i will pray f...Lynn Pain my heart aches for you and i will pray for strength. When it rains it pours. Im very sorry for your loss on all accounts. Take care dear. Take the reigns to navigate all of this as you want to ... your pace ... your way. Much love and support.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7026450255174007652.post-28585667075891344722015-07-29T14:14:04.421-04:002015-07-29T14:14:04.421-04:00Lynn:
Please know my thoughts and prayers are wit...Lynn:<br /><br />Please know my thoughts and prayers are with you as you. I'm sending you a virtual ((hug))!<br /><br />MerileeMerilee Lanehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16174445990713276239noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7026450255174007652.post-43501096354400608312015-07-29T14:03:26.605-04:002015-07-29T14:03:26.605-04:00Lynn,
I'm so sorry for your loss.Lynn,<br />I'm so sorry for your loss. Dandelionnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7026450255174007652.post-64697169084291962792015-07-29T13:38:11.217-04:002015-07-29T13:38:11.217-04:00Oh Lynn,
I'm so sorry. Any one of those things...Oh Lynn,<br />I'm so sorry. Any one of those things would be enough to send us reeling. All three is a whole lot to handle.<br />That said...I wonder if this will be a chance for your husband to support YOU emotionally for a change. To really step up and be there for you so that you can simply absorb all this and grieve until you feel like you can get back on your feet. I hope he takes this opportunity to show you what he's capable of...in a good way.<br />In the meantime, we're all thinking of you.Ellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13470499558973726796noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7026450255174007652.post-83991380841955151892015-07-29T12:03:51.926-04:002015-07-29T12:03:51.926-04:00Lynn -
I'm so sorry for your loss. xLynn - <br /><br />I'm so sorry for your loss. xIrisnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7026450255174007652.post-56485461837121424152015-07-29T11:53:17.096-04:002015-07-29T11:53:17.096-04:00I am so sorry for all o ur recent bad news. Good l...I am so sorry for all o ur recent bad news. Good luck to u. We all send u our deepest sympathies on loss of ur mom.<br /><br />Samnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7026450255174007652.post-23461870631449207802015-07-29T11:10:29.883-04:002015-07-29T11:10:29.883-04:00Lynn
I am so sorry for everything you are going th...Lynn<br />I am so sorry for everything you are going through. Indeed you certainly have bigger fish to fry than dealing with your husband and his issues now. You are right, life goes on and give your love and attention to those who appreciate it and need it. <br /><br />Hugs to you.TryingHardhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11598084690617343428noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7026450255174007652.post-10393056573472215232015-07-29T04:31:56.167-04:002015-07-29T04:31:56.167-04:00Talking about the Ashley Madison site, maybe this ...Talking about the Ashley Madison site, maybe this has been mentioned but I missed it, there is a site called cheaters anonymous. It is not only cheaters that come there for help but OW and BS give advice too. On a creepy level it was interesting. The OW write in saying how they want to tell the wives everything, write us letters, send emails or texts just to hurt us because they feel rejected and want revenge on their AP. Husband want to know how to get over the guilt. There is more about missing the AP than I expected. Some of it can be a little hurtful. All said sex with the AP was a 10. It seemed like a peep show ito the mind of a cheater. It is interesting at best but I did gain some understanding of the WHY and HOW. What did make me feel good was all the men who were seperated or going through a divorce who deeply regretted their actions and there wasn't a damn thing they could do about it. They realized too late the cost of their affair and could not un-do their damages. Our husbands are damn lucky we are who we are. One more thing, I noticed many of the OW were in abusive marriages or just got out of an abusive marriage according to the cheaters. Having your cake and eating it too was a common theme. <br /><br />Just an update, Over the last week, I got unexpectedly laid off from work, my sisters husband has a lethal cancer and my mother died. I haven't had much time to verbally abuse my husband. He has really been there for me in all ways. Life goes on. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17219895095283341385noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7026450255174007652.post-84535671685542481172015-07-28T21:21:39.097-04:002015-07-28T21:21:39.097-04:00Steam
One can only hope! I learn so much from you ...Steam<br />One can only hope! I learn so much from you all about this mess! That is the only way to describe this horrible place we find ourselves! This web sight and so many more like it just enable people to lose themselves in a fantasy life rather than deal with the real stresses we all face in this life! I am gaining such strength in my day to day from what I learn on this blog! God bless all families that this 'disaster' happens to!Theresahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11767712425596090138noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7026450255174007652.post-33289103179799690712015-07-28T16:39:26.819-04:002015-07-28T16:39:26.819-04:00My glee was also short lived. I do believe that e...My glee was also short lived. I do believe that every single one of these people should be outed, but being betrayed for me was thankfully a private matter. If my H's name\credit card info were to show up online it might have killed me. YES he fucked up but we all fuck up (though probably not as big as this) and I would hate if my search history during that time were ever to be made public, not to mention the websites i actually joined to see if he had (no one ever said i was sane) It's my great optimistic hope that these guys on the site will come clean after this close call. Confess to their wives and realize they were "this close" to losing it all. I remember once a few years ago, going only about 10mph trying to take a photo out my car window...and it happened, I had to hit the brakes so hard to avoid hitting the person in front of me who had stopped. It was THAT close call the made me finally realize that I was playing with fire (i didnt text and drive as a rule ever) I don't pick my phone up anymore when I am in the car. I learned my lesson without getting clobbered, maybe this will be the close and wake up call that shakes the insanity out of these spouses.Steamnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7026450255174007652.post-40911274588380597922015-07-28T13:51:49.220-04:002015-07-28T13:51:49.220-04:00amen to that - you know I'm agreeing...
I don...amen to that - you know I'm agreeing...<br /><br />I don't know that this was a moral stance, wasn't it that AM said it was deleting information (for a fee) and wasn't doing so? <br /><br />Irisnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7026450255174007652.post-30580211321417027952015-07-28T12:46:14.105-04:002015-07-28T12:46:14.105-04:00Elle
As I read the article the hackers intent is n...Elle<br />As I read the article the hackers intent is not taking the moral high road to expose cheaters per se. The hack was to show that the owners of the site told the subscribers that if they paid a fee their information and identity would be expunged. The only way the hackers could reveal the true identity is only when the subscribers paid the $19 fee to have their profiles erased from the system. The hackers were proving that this was not so. And they believe it was and inside job so who knows if it was really and truly a "hack" job from outsiders. I have not read that the hackers are exposing the identities as a moral point but rather a privacy point that indeed the subscribers and their privacy to this site are not safe. Exposing the cheaters and their actions would however be the resulting collateral damage to the exposure.<br /><br />Maybe I'm splitting hairs, but this is my understanding of the AM hack story.TryingHardhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11598084690617343428noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7026450255174007652.post-91264536498638298762015-07-28T12:25:20.357-04:002015-07-28T12:25:20.357-04:00Dana,
My rejoicing was short-lived. Though I do ho...Dana,<br />My rejoicing was short-lived. Though I do hope this provokes a wider conversation about the cost of infidelity, I'm not holding my breath.Ellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13470499558973726796noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7026450255174007652.post-25254433799195300262015-07-28T12:22:55.997-04:002015-07-28T12:22:55.997-04:00It's the vigilante aspect of the hacking that ...It's the vigilante aspect of the hacking that freaks me out. While I happen to agree with the moral stance of the hackers in this instance, what about when I don't? <br />If anything, I hope this reminds a great many people that nothing is ever really private. Not online. Not in real life. And there are consequences that we rarely anticipate.Ellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13470499558973726796noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7026450255174007652.post-11154788142843314382015-07-28T12:15:47.960-04:002015-07-28T12:15:47.960-04:00"would rather be smacked with the truth than ..."would rather be smacked with the truth than kissed with a lie." Absolutely TH. Ellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13470499558973726796noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7026450255174007652.post-14087135140902956032015-07-28T12:15:00.755-04:002015-07-28T12:15:00.755-04:00I hope they find us too.I hope they find us too.Ellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13470499558973726796noreply@blogger.com