tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7026450255174007652.post174356635154084282..comments2024-03-19T08:32:06.169-04:00Comments on Betrayed Wives' Club: Meet the Seven Dwarfs of BetrayalEllehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13470499558973726796noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7026450255174007652.post-81195612667010510502012-06-21T17:41:19.536-04:002012-06-21T17:41:19.536-04:00Yes, it definitely is crazy-making!
ElleYes, it definitely is crazy-making!<br /><br />ElleEllehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13470499558973726796noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7026450255174007652.post-25569845466653283542012-06-21T14:00:27.162-04:002012-06-21T14:00:27.162-04:00This would explain why I feel like we have multipl...This would explain why I feel like we have multiple personalities going through this. Add this mess to the masks we wear in front of those who don't know our trauma and it enough to make me feel like I'm losing my mind some days.Emotional Tornadohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01218071938634325194noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7026450255174007652.post-76954659222736735772011-07-11T22:43:59.481-04:002011-07-11T22:43:59.481-04:00Thanks! Glad you found us...though, as I always sa...Thanks! Glad you found us...though, as I always say, I wish you didn't need us.<br />And yes, "normal" is a long-gone friend, though a new "normal" will eventually replace her. It will likely take years, which can sound completely depressing and overwhelming but it's a matter of healing in increments. You won't feel awful for years...you'll just feel better slowly and gradually. Assuming you are healing and not simply putting in time with your fingers crossed. <br />In the short term (and this is sooo new to you), just focus on yourself and what you need right away to feel safe in the marriage. You have the right to ask for and receive total transparency, absolutely no contact between him and his affair partner, answers to all your questions (though be really sure they're questions you WANT answers to – some things are better off relegated to the "I don't need to know" category) and completely and constant reassurance that he will do what it takes to ensure he never EVER steps outside your marriage again.Ellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13470499558973726796noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7026450255174007652.post-79930506962575437662011-07-11T17:41:21.987-04:002011-07-11T17:41:21.987-04:00Your articles are amazing! They are spot-on, but ...Your articles are amazing! They are spot-on, but with enough humor injected to make me laugh. Weepy was around me for the first 12-24 hours. I honestly didn't know I could cry that much or that hard. I seriously thought ever drop of water was expelled from my body and I was going to shrivel up into a prune or something (that's a nice visual). <br /><br />Anyhoo...my WH wants to reconcile and seems to be very emotional and remorseful. I don't know if it's true or he feels so guilty for causing me so much pain. I am scared this is a 'years'/'forever' thing...I just want to be normal again. However, pretty certain that ain't happenin'. Thanks again for this site and the wealth of articles.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7026450255174007652.post-56540546104235386412011-01-31T06:12:14.098-05:002011-01-31T06:12:14.098-05:00Wonderful!!! I am living with clingy and nuts now....Wonderful!!! I am living with clingy and nuts now... Bitchy is trying hard but I am resisting. I want angry around but she has not pitched up yet. Weepy is nowhere to be seen nor is jumpy and fearful. I guess I dont have PTSD, I have seen worse in life and maybe... just maybe this is something I have always anticipated and even expected to happen....<br />- JaniceAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7026450255174007652.post-52369687861145985042010-08-11T02:01:36.678-04:002010-08-11T02:01:36.678-04:00I have read this a few times and it's so true....I have read this a few times and it's so true. Always good for a laugh too :)Martihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02466370118453904316noreply@blogger.com