tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7026450255174007652.post6080614420492513221..comments2024-03-17T12:13:33.772-04:00Comments on Betrayed Wives' Club: Fair is Foul and Foul is Fair...Ellehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13470499558973726796noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7026450255174007652.post-66128232848473686882015-04-24T08:33:59.952-04:002015-04-24T08:33:59.952-04:00Gee,
If there's a silver lining to being broke...Gee,<br />If there's a silver lining to being broken open by betrayal, it's this: Use this opportunity to heal. Betrayal re-opens many older wounds -- fear of abandonment, fear of failure, a pervasive sense that we're just not "enough". And when we're brought to our knees, that's the time to reach out for all the help we can get. This is your chance to rebuild yourself. To create a foundation for yourself that's made up of your strength and your integrity and your wisdom. A foundation that you can trust, no matter who or what in your world lets you down. Take this chance. Find your strength. Tap into your wisdom. Ellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13470499558973726796noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7026450255174007652.post-42315826628156165622015-04-23T13:36:27.797-04:002015-04-23T13:36:27.797-04:00I know I'm late to this post (just found your ...I know I'm late to this post (just found your blog a week or two ago), but wow, have you described my thoughts exactly. I've said as much to my husband. I'd been through enough in my life with abusive parents, multiple miscarriages, being a parent to a special-needs child (I love him dearly, but it's not easy), and mental health issues including PTSD and severe depression. He knew all this, how could he do that to me? I did not deserve to be betrayed on top of all that. It nearly killed me, literally, as I was suicidal for months afterwards.<br /><br />I know his porn addiction which culminated in his acting out sexually the one time was about him, not me, but that doesn't stop the pain.<br /><br />Thank you for this blog. I'd been helping me a lot.<br /><br />~Gee.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7026450255174007652.post-60918901532681181722010-03-29T09:51:14.841-04:002010-03-29T09:51:14.841-04:00On your recommendation, Tabulous, I'm reading ...On your recommendation, Tabulous, I'm reading The Giver. What an incredible story. Thanks so much for pointing me that direction!<br /><br />And yes, I think betrayal robs us of our notion of fairness...but, perhaps, replaces it with a deeper appreciation of what we can be grateful for. Peaks and valleys...peaks and valleys.Ellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13470499558973726796noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7026450255174007652.post-33258868097972832312010-03-29T09:14:56.164-04:002010-03-29T09:14:56.164-04:00Me too. I actually spoke to my husband about it t...Me too. I actually spoke to my husband about it this weekend telling him that I thought I experienced enough pain in my life that I didn't deserve to feel the pain of being betrayed. I like your analogy of being the Atlases of our generation. It's important to remember life isn't fair and that we don't always see or know about the pain that others have to bear.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7026450255174007652.post-50289757912819047402010-03-23T15:16:06.518-04:002010-03-23T15:16:06.518-04:00I thought I was the only one who thought like that...I thought I was the only one who thought like that. But then again, because The Giver is one of my favorite books (ever since childhood) I've also come to believe that there are just some people in the world whose place it is to carry more than their fair share of pain and heartache because other, lesser people would crumble under the weight. We are the Atlases of our generations. I try to find comfort in that the Universe deems me strong enough to bear it.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00300669527944421469noreply@blogger.com