tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7026450255174007652.post6779391703690088464..comments2024-03-17T12:13:33.772-04:00Comments on Betrayed Wives' Club: Funny Friday: Another round of "Stupidest Things The Cheater Ever Said"Ellehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13470499558973726796noreply@blogger.comBlogger60125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7026450255174007652.post-87759236813799818092019-04-23T10:01:22.501-04:002019-04-23T10:01:22.501-04:00Notyetengaged, We don't want you in our club!!...Notyetengaged, We don't want you in our club!! Not that you're not amazing. I'm sure you are.<br />Here's what I would do: Demand he seek treatment as a condition of getting engaged. This isn't about controlling him, it's about setting clear boundaries around what you will and will not tolerate in a relationship. If it's a porn addiction (and it's affecting your relationship, which it seems it is), then it needs to be addressed now. Nothing will change after engagement/married unless he comes to understand why he's using porn (and how it's interfering with true intimacy) and how he can control it. I would also urge you two to seek couples counselling now in the hopes that you won't need it later.<br />I'm not anti-porn. But, like anything that changes our brain chemistry, it can be used in a relatively healthy way or it can become problematic. I applaud you for recognizing what's happening. If you don't want to just leave, then I really hope you'll insist it get addressed now. Ellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12947780870490110663noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7026450255174007652.post-22081254535384655822019-04-23T09:41:53.261-04:002019-04-23T09:41:53.261-04:00Anonymous, when did you find out about your husban...Anonymous, when did you find out about your husband's porn addiction ? My boyfriend has one. We were talking about getting married... but worried I will end up in your club (not that you ladies aren't wonderful!). Thoughts, if you care to,?Notyetengagednoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7026450255174007652.post-32870140655755053222019-01-26T23:59:13.492-05:002019-01-26T23:59:13.492-05:00Oh, i was simply overreacting: he did something th...Oh, i was simply overreacting: he did something that had nothing to do with us!!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04099866663637371283noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7026450255174007652.post-78653256943793375422018-04-23T06:47:09.087-04:002018-04-23T06:47:09.087-04:00I have a few:
"I kissed her because I though...I have a few:<br /><br />"I kissed her because I thought it wouldn't be polite not to." Lucky she didn't ask for sex.<br /><br />Why is she in your apartment? I thought you were finished with her. Answer: "She wanted to cook for me." Now that makes perfect sense.<br /><br />When I sent him a video clip of him kissing her: "How dare you!" How dare I???!<br /><br />On finding out I hired a detective: “It’s a violation of basic human rights!” It is ok to cheat…but not ok for the betrayed to take steps to discover it<br /><br />“She understands me.” How original<br /><br />“She thought she could make me happier.” She had no right to an opinion on our marriage. <br /><br />Whose idea was it to search for apartments after I discovered the affair: “Hers. I had nowhere to live and she was trying to help me.” No, she was trying to make sure you would not come home!<br /><br />Him: “Everyone thinks you give out a bad vibe.”<br />Me: “Who is everyone?”<br />Him: “A, V and D.”<br />Me: “All her friends then? And who told you they said this?”<br />Him: “My affair partner.”<br />Me: “Did you hear any of them say this?”<br />Him: “No.”<br />Me: “So all these bad opinions of me were fed back to you by her?”<br />It’s not like she had an ulterior motive, lol. Funny he had lived with me for 10 years and didn’t notice the bad vibe. Until she pointed it out…<br /><br />When I discovered a new passcode on his phone: “You’re so controlling!” No, I just wanted to know if I’m still being lied to. Obviously I was!<br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br />Miyukinoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7026450255174007652.post-86568464432059856532018-02-27T21:06:14.399-05:002018-02-27T21:06:14.399-05:00Oh wow. These are unbelievable! "Curious abou...Oh wow. These are unbelievable! "Curious about the judicial system"! That takes MAJOR cojones to say that with a straight face. Just wow. Ellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13470499558973726796noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7026450255174007652.post-86033392855705214712018-02-27T19:56:28.904-05:002018-02-27T19:56:28.904-05:00[Relentless arguing that office of OW could still ...[Relentless arguing that office of OW could still be “on the way” to somewhere he was going despite the fact that it was clearly off on its own]<br /><br />Listen, if you leave your office, make a trip to Timbuktu, and then go to the conference room, that don’t make it “on the way”!!!!! Dumbass...<br /><br />It happened because “I didn’t want to be rude.”<br /><br />“I thought I was being really careful not to be flirtatious”<br /><br />On why he texted her all day while she was at jury duty: “I was just very curious about the judicial system”<br /><br />On why he told her unflattering things about my pregnancy body: “I was just amazed at how much the body changes during pregnancy. I thought it was interesting”<br /><br />“When you go through my phone it makes me feel like you don’t trust me”<br /><br />And one of my all time faves: “It’s really hard for me to deal with all this negativity”<br /><br />-SayonaraAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7026450255174007652.post-74096819729484913822017-02-03T10:31:07.462-05:002017-02-03T10:31:07.462-05:00My husband said it made him feel good when she adm...My husband said it made him feel good when she admired him for being " a rock solid man ". Yes , that married man you are boinking is indeed rock solid. <br />Cow. <br />She also said " I am so glad you are not religious !" wtf??? Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06257445930727326532noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7026450255174007652.post-35136407560556056902017-02-03T10:28:53.143-05:002017-02-03T10:28:53.143-05:00My husband told me that the OW told him with great...My husband told me that the OW told him with great admiration.. " you are such a rock solid man!!<br />YES! .. that's him , the rock sold married man boinking the town tramp Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06257445930727326532noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7026450255174007652.post-84219660716828712302016-04-14T08:40:00.428-04:002016-04-14T08:40:00.428-04:00I was told it was just an experiment!!!
I was told it was just an experiment!!!<br />uknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02734239339519762645noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7026450255174007652.post-29184590943019765462016-04-06T11:31:45.892-04:002016-04-06T11:31:45.892-04:00I'm speechless.I'm speechless.Ellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13470499558973726796noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7026450255174007652.post-53808317498938158922016-04-06T11:30:58.558-04:002016-04-06T11:30:58.558-04:00I know. It's all so crazy and illogical, righ...I know. It's all so crazy and illogical, right? <br /><br /> The fact is that he had demonized me based on our political differences; I was marginalized and expendable (it didn't help that I wasn't porn material).Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7026450255174007652.post-61264681526013364142016-04-06T11:30:56.074-04:002016-04-06T11:30:56.074-04:00Yep. Your fault. Or your phone's fault. But de...Yep. Your fault. Or your phone's fault. But definitely not his. Ellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13470499558973726796noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7026450255174007652.post-9190487379648725292016-04-06T11:30:08.859-04:002016-04-06T11:30:08.859-04:00I'm laughing out loud. Do these guys hear them...I'm laughing out loud. Do these guys hear themselves??? On top of everything, they want our pity because they're so "stressed"? There should be a special echo chamber in which these guys have to spend time where they hear their asinine remarks repeated over and over and over...Ellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13470499558973726796noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7026450255174007652.post-74861212235564933632016-04-06T11:28:51.828-04:002016-04-06T11:28:51.828-04:00I've heard of WAY TOO MANY stories of STDs tha...I've heard of WAY TOO MANY stories of STDs thanks to idiots who were convinced they would "know" if she had an STD. Ellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13470499558973726796noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7026450255174007652.post-24378976194124923262016-04-06T11:27:01.291-04:002016-04-06T11:27:01.291-04:00Open mouth. Insert foot. [Face palm.]Open mouth. Insert foot. [Face palm.]Ellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13470499558973726796noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7026450255174007652.post-78814232791522126582016-04-05T15:17:03.788-04:002016-04-05T15:17:03.788-04:00OMG my husband said THE SAME thing to me. And aft...OMG my husband said THE SAME thing to me. And after relentlessly asking about sex, he gave me info that was NOT what I asked about...which I shall never, of course, forget. However, the sting is gone now (it's been 22 months and 2 days but who's counting?)....and the ONLY good thought I have is that he had to sit with the junkies, AIDS patients, paid ladies, and other folks when he want for his AIDS testing at the Public Health Department. At age 60 I got my first STD....from my husband, compliments of HIS whore.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03604922957734106848noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7026450255174007652.post-5590186000238989752016-04-05T15:13:02.132-04:002016-04-05T15:13:02.132-04:00"It was only sex." This after 8 months ..."It was only sex." This after 8 months of emotional abuse from him because HE felt like S**T about being a S**T. Seriously? Stupid is as stupid does!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03604922957734106848noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7026450255174007652.post-29241550410349628372016-04-05T12:45:42.135-04:002016-04-05T12:45:42.135-04:00I got told I am constantly negative and catastroph...I got told I am constantly negative and catastrophising when discussing his affair. So I am supposed to be constantly positive and accepting of it? Roziethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14025661508742625844noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7026450255174007652.post-16303314653866815852016-04-05T10:11:09.011-04:002016-04-05T10:11:09.011-04:00Mine is "well if you weren't on your phon...Mine is "well if you weren't on your phone all the time maybe I would want to spend more time with you" Coming from the person who was obviously on his phone 24/7 contacting other people for affairs instead of finding ways to spend time with me or his kids.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7026450255174007652.post-42914693189524848232016-04-05T05:05:32.728-04:002016-04-05T05:05:32.728-04:00Last one that I have....You will never understand ...Last one that I have....You will never understand how hard it is to love 2 women at the same time. The guilt was almost unbearable. Just keeping all the stories (HUM you mean lies?) straight was almost more than I could manage. You just have no idea how stressful this was for me.<br /><br />I just stood there shaking my damn head thinking on top of a lying cheat, my husband is a total idiot. SLMnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7026450255174007652.post-73669454138415471832016-04-05T05:01:42.617-04:002016-04-05T05:01:42.617-04:00During a discussion on how he put me at risk for a...During a discussion on how he put me at risk for a STD he was explaining that he was not stupid he knew she was "clean". I said why because she was such a "good person"? He said well I would have noticed it something was wrong when we where fooling around, just like when I am with you. I said yeah but SHE WAS NOT ME.<br /><br />Yeah that still hurts. And I had to thank him for answering all the questions I never wanted to know about. SLMnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7026450255174007652.post-3826344354997991232016-04-05T04:55:44.096-04:002016-04-05T04:55:44.096-04:00When I asked my husband (bc he said the first coup...When I asked my husband (bc he said the first couple of times he used protection) who purchased the condoms he said she had them in her nightstand. I said how convenient. He said well they were left from her exlive in. Later he disclosed she had, had a hysterectomy. I said what would a woman that had a hysterectomy have a collection of condoms from her ex-boyfriend? I saw a light bulb go off for him. He said I never thought about that. SLMnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7026450255174007652.post-62620217681541888902016-04-05T04:48:53.446-04:002016-04-05T04:48:53.446-04:00On discovery I wanted her full name. He kept sayin...On discovery I wanted her full name. He kept saying it was _____ but I had already done searches on her phone number and was coming up with a different last name. Finally he had to confess that the name he knew was her maiden name from high school and did not know her current last name. I felt like I was a character in a Carrie Underwood song. He also did not know about a all her ex-husbands. But he LOVED her. SLMnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7026450255174007652.post-21641107479927486442016-04-05T04:44:45.207-04:002016-04-05T04:44:45.207-04:00Oops I was trying to click notify me and I acciden...Oops I was trying to click notify me and I accidentally somehow posted I was trying to get to ridiculous remark, seeing as though that's the theme of this blog, that would follow when if told me one thing, thinking it would placate me and I would get angry or rather hurt and he would tell me "geez I can never win no matter what I say" what?!?! Really?!? Here's how you could've won NOT CHEATED!! Lol you would've won everyone of these arguments, so you're darn right you can never say the "right thing" lolAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09134437296757574003noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7026450255174007652.post-2475725245880904402016-04-05T04:28:53.286-04:002016-04-05T04:28:53.286-04:00Oh my husband would make those same comments!! And...Oh my husband would make those same comments!! And I had the exact same feeling as you!! She was obviously important enough to destroy our marriage and hurt our children! I'm not sure to this day what would've hurt worse if did care for her or if he didn't Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09134437296757574003noreply@blogger.com