tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7026450255174007652.post8067712468598168135..comments2024-03-17T12:13:33.772-04:00Comments on Betrayed Wives' Club: Emotional affair: cheating? Or not quite...Ellehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13470499558973726796noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7026450255174007652.post-60194550025247939212019-09-17T01:35:12.392-04:002019-09-17T01:35:12.392-04:00Hi everyone, last week my husband has presented me...Hi everyone, last week my husband has presented me with divorce papers, It was the greatest shock of my life. I almost lost my life to alcohol... I lost my job, I got sick and was admitted into the hospital emergency ward, Two days later when I opened my eyes I saw my mom and my husband beside me holding my hands, I was shocked again and confused to see my husband. Kesha Duthhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09922397152556202008noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7026450255174007652.post-62001456118869173182017-01-30T20:28:54.928-05:002017-01-30T20:28:54.928-05:00For a few year's ago I started something was ...For a few year's ago I started something was not the same between me and my boyfriend, like the light burned out.<br />I went to florida to visit my son and family. When I was leaving my bag ripped, so borrowed my son. When I came home, I cleaned my bagreat. While cleaning I found a condom wrapper on the floor. I didn't think it was my son's, because of the size. I ask my son and he said no it was not his, because he waits magnum. I pushed it from my mind and thought maybe it was from my shoe or something. Dumb I know.<br />About a year or so later I was looking for a for a number in my boyfriend phone. And in the phone was an inappropriate conversation with a 347 number. I confronted him and he said he didn't have any idea what I was talking about. I pushed it away, I was leaving for another trip to florida and wanted not to believe anything was happening. <br />2 weeks later I came back a day earlier and wanting to surprise my man, he seemed disappointed. That night there was a text saying I would like to see you again before your wife comes home. I pretended to be him. I asked her what she wanted from me. She said I want you to leave your wife for me. Needless to say I was heartbroken. I took the phone and tossed it at him. I said this is home much you love me. For weeks he made all kinds of excuses.I could tell he was fibbing. But over time I forgave him. He said they never had sex. But I told he betrayed me even if he didn't cheat. He said I have girl friend same as you have male friends. Once again I forgave him, because there was no affair.He asked me to marry him, so we did. I loved him so much and wanted to forgive him.<br />I had been cleaning our house like crazy. While cleaning I would find all these numbers, so I decided to check them out. They ended up being female escort numbers. One of them was the lady he was chatting on the phone with. I confronted him. He finally admitted he had an affair with her. He had so much remorseful what he did and said he stopped all conversation with this slut.I am trying and wanting to forgive him. But sometimes it's hard, because I have this vision of him having sex with this lady. When I try and talk to him about what truly happened, he blows up. He said it had nothing to do with me, it's all him. I am going to stay. I told him if he ever cheats again, he will wake up regretting what he did. I just want all this gone from my head.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03700515390566878256noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7026450255174007652.post-90906343425762389902016-12-26T10:31:19.423-05:002016-12-26T10:31:19.423-05:00I found out on November 28th that my husnabd of ov...I found out on November 28th that my husnabd of over 11 years had been having an affair with a coworker that livea about 2 hrs away. He told me he would always love me but he is in love with her and sees himself with her for the rest of his life. He wants us to remain friends because he says I will always be his best friend. We tried to live together until after the holidays for our son that is 5yrs old, with the agreement that he would have no contact with her during that time. That only lasted 5 days. He told me it was killing him to not talk to her and even asked me for permission to spend time with her after their company Christmas party. Needless to say I was crushed. In the time since he moved out he has bounced back from hot to cold almost everyday. One day he will text me asking how my day is the next day I won't hear anything from him. I want to save our marriage beacuse I do still love him and because I took the vows that said for better or worse until death do us part. This is definitely the worst. I still see him as my husband but he no longer sees me as his wife. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06998765914917326138noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7026450255174007652.post-31343277336114896182016-12-02T18:26:05.583-05:002016-12-02T18:26:05.583-05:00I am 8 days after discovering one of my husband...I am 8 days after discovering one of my husband's affairs - I stumbled across videos of them on our computer two days before Thanksgiving. Since then, he has confessed to that affair (lasting 8 months, on and off), a 3 week affair, a one night stand with a man, and years of visiting prostitutes during our 17 year marriage. We are talking and trying to see if there is anything left to rebuild in our relationship. I am on a roller coaster of emotions, struggling with overwhelming sadness and anger. Why couldn't he send me loving emails like he did with her?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7026450255174007652.post-56110801964482162972010-03-04T13:09:23.268-05:002010-03-04T13:09:23.268-05:00I'm so sorry. Emotional betrayal can be just a...I'm so sorry. Emotional betrayal can be just as devastating (some say more!) than physical betrayal.<br />You need to determine exactly what's acceptable to you and what's not. And HE needs to ask himself why he's having a relationship of any sort, with an EX girlfriend, behind your back. Obviously his boundaries are fuzzy, to say the least.<br />There's a great book, Not Just Friends, by Shirley Glass that you may want to check out. <br />In the meantime, state your terms and determine what you're prepared to do if he violates them. Making threats and then backing down won't get you anywhere. If you're insisting on No Contact with this woman, then what are the consequences if he violates that? Make sure they're consequences you'll follow through with.<br />Your intent is not to punish him but to protect yourself and respect yourself. And to help him understand that what he thinks is an innocent friendship (HA!), is hurtful to you and damaging to your marriage. Is he prepared to pay the price for allowing a third person into your marriage?Ellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13470499558973726796noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7026450255174007652.post-56767409770703905622010-03-03T16:21:59.657-05:002010-03-03T16:21:59.657-05:00I am currently in the same situation. I found out ...I am currently in the same situation. I found out my husband was talking with an ex-lover from 25 years ago. He said they were just catching up on life. She found him on Facebook. I did not see anything wrong with that at the time. Then her husband called me and said that there was inappropriate talk. So after looking at my cell phone bill and seeing that he talked to her for over 600 mins in a month I asked him to stop.I told him what happened and said that he was cheating on me and lying about what he was doing. He does not feel he was doing anything wrong. After a month and a half, I get a call from her husband again and he tells me they are communicating again and that they both have new e-mail addresses so that we do not have a way to track them. How do I deal with his refusal to give up this relationship?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7026450255174007652.post-2727254726153006212010-01-14T05:20:58.825-05:002010-01-14T05:20:58.825-05:00How does a wife deal with a husband who had an emo...How does a wife deal with a husband who had an emotional affair with an ex girlfriend. He does not feel it was an emotional affair but I feel betrayed and unable to trust him again. Can anyone can help me deal with this situation.<br />Many thanks.<br /><br />Betrayed wifeAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com