tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7026450255174007652.post4674783791569816070..comments2024-03-28T19:25:37.448-04:00Comments on Betrayed Wives' Club: Welcome to Crazy Town!Ellehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13470499558973726796noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7026450255174007652.post-52486652010825631582011-04-04T09:49:52.714-04:002011-04-04T09:49:52.714-04:00A commitment to work HARD to figure out why a spou...A commitment to work HARD to figure out why a spouse strays is the only way to ensure it becomes a learning experience, albeit a bloody painful one. If he won't do that, you're wise to get out.<br />And yes, there are far too many betrayed spouses of both sexes...and in same-sex relationships. <br />I wish you peace and healing. And thanks for the letter. A great blueprint for other betrayed wives thinking of articulating their own feelings in a letter! :) It can be quite cathartic to simply put onto paper all those overwhelming feelings. Then, if it's not prudent to send, you can burn, stomp, or otherwise deface the letter. But at least the feelings are out there...and not simply poisoning your own heart.Ellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13470499558973726796noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7026450255174007652.post-72671980109412421362011-04-03T21:38:12.610-04:002011-04-03T21:38:12.610-04:00In response to my letter earlier...and the comment...In response to my letter earlier...and the comment above...<br /><br />I have filed for divorce. I have no desire to remain with the other half of that "tango." I will not be expecting more of the same from him, because although he said he wanted to "change," he wasn't willing to put in the work or to deal with my anger and pain.<br /><br />I wrote the letter above after a conversation with her ex-husband. Unfortunately, there are too many betrayed husbands too.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7026450255174007652.post-58402791970470180752011-04-03T20:27:34.063-04:002011-04-03T20:27:34.063-04:00Wow. Sounds exactly like far too many women I know...Wow. Sounds exactly like far too many women I know of. And you're right. Heartbroken, not because of the pain they've helped create (let's remember, it takes two to...ummm...tango), but because they're the ones left in the dust. Too true – what did they expect from someone who's revealed himself to be a liar and cheater. Then again, what does that mean WE can expect. Well, unless our spouses truly want to change and are willing to do the work to ensure they don't go down that same road, I guess it means we, too, can expect more of the same.Ellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13470499558973726796noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7026450255174007652.post-55132922700565466112011-04-03T13:58:16.367-04:002011-04-03T13:58:16.367-04:00This isn't really a comment on this blog entry...This isn't really a comment on this blog entry, but a letter that I wrote this morning to the other woman . . .<br /><br />So, you are “heartbroken.” That’s what I hear. While it does give me a sense of satisfaction to hear that, it also invokes a sense of amazement. <br /><br />You are “heartbroken”? Over him? Over a man who hurt his family, the ones he loves more than anything—his own children? Over a man who used you to get prostitute level sex for free? Over a man who you had sex with in public restrooms in public parks? Over a man who never gave you his cell phone number because he didn’t want you calling him? A man who hates to hear your name, wishes he had never met you, and never loved you—really? You are “heartbroken”? It does amaze me.<br /><br />You acted like a whore, yet you are “heartbroken” because you are being treated like one? Exactly what did you expect? Perhaps you should reexamine what you need to be “heartbroken” about—you destroyed your own family, your soon to be ex-husband can not wait until the divorce is final, your children have no respect for you because you did not even have the decency to hide what you were doing from them, your 17-year old carried the burden for an entire semester at school—seeing me in the hallways and wanting to tell me what you were doing with my husband, you don’t have respect for yourself—you allowed yourself to be used by a man who has a problem with sex, and the people you work with know about it because you didn’t have the decency to be discreet.<br /><br />I know why you are “heartbroken.” You are like a child, “heartbroken” that you did not get what you want. “Heartbroken” because you immaturely think the world revolves around you, and you can’t understand why it isn’t working for you this time. You are “heartbroken” because you thought that you could hold power over a man with your sex and are now realizing that you are not as powerful as you thought you were. Your ego has taken a hit. Again, it does amaze me.<br /><br />I don’t imagine that you will use this situation as a learning experience. You will continue to wallow in your “heartbreak,” moving on to use your sex to gain power over someone else. Just another example of how women like you and women like me differ. I do not feel sorry for myself anymore. This is just one experience in my life that has made me stronger and has given me a better sense of who I am. Do you even know who you are?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7026450255174007652.post-57039167434016782732011-04-01T09:54:51.137-04:002011-04-01T09:54:51.137-04:00This one hits the nail on the head! It really is a...This one hits the nail on the head! It really is a detour into Crazy Town!A Woman Scornedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04179644083631941874noreply@blogger.com