tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7026450255174007652.post9097297448062815179..comments2024-03-27T21:50:33.178-04:00Comments on Betrayed Wives' Club: Forget Forgiveness...Reach for ReconciliationEllehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13470499558973726796noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7026450255174007652.post-66429417598582743952010-09-09T01:21:46.701-04:002010-09-09T01:21:46.701-04:00What my husband has done to me is unforgivable. He...What my husband has done to me is unforgivable. He knows this. I will never forgive him. I also will not hold onto this pain or hate of my husband- Learning to let it go-move forward, is hard though.Martihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02466370118453904316noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7026450255174007652.post-26526059816591524322010-08-25T18:42:25.209-04:002010-08-25T18:42:25.209-04:00One of the most freeing moments for me, was taking...One of the most freeing moments for me, was taking forgiveness off the table. I told my spouse if he needed it to move forward, that he wasn't going to get it and that might be a problem for him. That doesn't mean I will stew and be miserable and let his actions hold power over me forever. But saying the words, "I forgive you" is simply never going to happen.<br /><br />When I let that go, and released the pressure I felt to forgive, and when he said he didn't need those words, he only needed me, a weight was lifted and I was able to move forward.<br /><br />It was good for me to NOT forgive.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7026450255174007652.post-71881005527124917462010-07-19T19:55:58.832-04:002010-07-19T19:55:58.832-04:00Brilliant! Thank you, thank you. I agree with ev...Brilliant! Thank you, thank you. I agree with everything you said, and could never have stated it so eloquently.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com