The wise and wonderful Steam, who has given so much to us here, is hurting badly. Not betrayal, thank God. But she just lost her beloved pup – an 18-month-old bundle who helped Steam's heart open when she was going through the hell of betrayal. Her little Chakita got sick suddenly and went downhill quickly.
I hope those of you who know Steam can send her strength and prayers and love.
Pages
- Home
- Feeling Stuck, Page 22 (PAGE FULL)
- Sex and intimacy after betrayal
- Share Your Story: Finding Out, Part 5 (4 is full!!...
- Finding Out, Part 5 (Please post here. Part 4 is f...
- Stupid S#*t Cheaters Say
- Separating/Divorcing Page 9
- Finding Out, Part 6
- Books for the Betrayed
- Separating and Divorcing, Page 10
- Feeling Stuck, Part 23
- MORE Stupid S#*t Cheaters Say
- Share Your Story Part 6 (Part 5 is full)
- Sex & Intimacy After Betrayal Part 2 (Part 1 is full)
- Share Your Story
- Share Your Story Part 7 (6 is FULL)
Steam, I'm so sorry to hear about your loss. I'm keeping you in my thoughts and prayers.
ReplyDeleteSteam my heart is breaking for you. I know the feeling of losing a furry family member. Please take comfort in knowing that you gave your beloved pup a wonderful life. They seem to have an uncanny ability to know when we are hurting and do their best to comfort us. Please know I am thinking of you and wishing you peace and comfort while you are grieving. People who have loved and lost a furry family member know the pain and grief you are feeling.
ReplyDeleteDear Steam
ReplyDeleteI am so sorry for your loss. I had two dogs. One was a rescue dog that never left my side during the turmoil of DDay. I had to put him down last November and it broke my heart. He gave me nothing but love. Slept under my bed every night when I was alone. I think some how he knew that's where I wanted to be. Hiding under my bed away from the pain. It's awful when we lose them. My heart breaks for you. I know how you feel. Hugs to you my sister.
Dear Steam
ReplyDeleteI am so sorry for your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you. I know your puppy must have brought you so much love and comfort. Dogs have such a great gift to connect with our hearts. I am thinking of you and sending love and peace of heart and mind.
Becky
Such devastating news. I did the same, Steam, a sweet little puppy and unconditional love. Two years later and I can't imagine my life without her. I am so so sorry for your loss. Hugs and tears to you my friend. xo
ReplyDeleteSteam
ReplyDeleteYou have always had kind words to help me through this awful time in my life. I wish I had something that I could say to you that would make the pain of your loss be a little less, but I don't know what I could say that would make it go away. Maybe it's like everything that it slowly gets easier. So I guess I just want you to know I'm thinking of you and I hope you are ok.
Steam
ReplyDeleteI know the pain of losing a beloved fur family member! It hurts just as bad as losing anything else in our lives! My heart feels your pain and my prayers are for you to feel good about how many good memories about your time with such a special puppy! Many hugs!
I am so sorry, Steam. I am thinking of you and praying for you to be comforted.
ReplyDeleteLost my furry friend this year also my dog was great im coming up soon on the year anniversary ... summer was hard. I still hung her stocking ( yep all members of the family have a stocking at my house ... always) i miss her dearly and still havent got used to all the extra vacuum i have to do ... she was a great cleaner upper thus why overweight but still cute all same. It leaves a heavy heart ...im sorry for your loss.
ReplyDeleteSteam, my heart breaks for you! Loving a pet is truly one of the most open, vulnerable things you can do because you go into the relationship knowing that the pain will come some day (no one expects it at 18 months though!) Bless you for giving your sweet pup a good life for the time that you were together. May he or she be at peace now. You and your family are in my thoughts. Hugs to you.
ReplyDeleteHi Steam, I too know your pain. the loss of your furbaby and of course, the pain of betrayal. We on this board are unknown to each other yet connect so beautifully and deeply because of what we've been thru. I lost my cat of 17 yrs. a couple months ago. She was with me thru all the times of abandonment, the betrayal,DDay and thru the days and nights of tears and pain. it was a beautiful and pure love she and I shared.
ReplyDeletePeace to you especially at this time of year. We are here, all of us together in this special place.
J.
Lots of love to you, Steam. I always enjoy reading your comments and guest posts, you have so much insight, and it has helped me a lot through this mess. I'm so very sorry for your loss.
ReplyDeleteI'm so sorry for you losing your puppy. You must be heartbroken. I'm sending you a big cyber hug and many prayers.
ReplyDeleteI found Calico kitten on CL for free from a wonderful military family and she's my baby. I can literally wrap her up in her favorite blanket that i brought her home with and she'll snuggle and take a nap with me. She almost died b/c she swallowed a dropped pill and I had to run up to the expensive 24/7 vet but she was OK. She almost stopped breathing.
Take care and God Bless. Anne from VA
This is from Steam who asked me to post because she's away from her computer and her phone is being temperamental:
ReplyDelete"God bless all of you. Thank you Elle. I didn't expect this. I have been trying to post endlessly the last weeks to offer support. with no avail. My phone has eaten the responses.
We of all people al know heartbreak too intimately The heartache of losing a best friend so soon so young is another harsh lesson on control. We try so much and have so little. She was so little and she stole my heart. She came almost 1 year to the date of D Day and she was our baby. Our part two of Our new second marriage. She brought us nothing--and I mean nothing but joy. I even wrote about her here not many months ago. How she felt like magic.
All I want for Christmas is to have her back.
All I can wish for is peace.
Thank you for caring.
Iknow in all our pain it's so hard to feel anything but our own. The fact you can offer me comfort is a huge reminder of how large your, my sister's, hearts truly are, though they may be scattered in a million pieces
Blessings to you and hug everyone you love. Including your four legged babies."
Sending you my love from a windy London xx
ReplyDeleteAwwww, dear sister... I am so sorry to hear about your little fur-friend. There is never a good time to say goodbye to the unconditional joy and love our pets give us.
ReplyDeleteThis is a different kind of sorrow than we all discuss here, yet no less painful, in it's own way. I hope your wonderful memories of your sweet pupper bring you smiles instead of tears very soon.
(((hugs)))
This is a bit long, but having lost a furbaby, it brought me some comfort...I hope it can do the same for some of you.
ReplyDeleteBorrowed from Facebook:
"THE NIGHT BEFORE CHRISTMAS
AT RAINBOW BRIDGE
'Twas the night before Christmas, at Rainbow Bridge too.
We Bridgekids were thinking as always of you.
We'd seen how the holidays weren't bright this year,
Heard you whisper so often, "I wish you were here!"
We know how you wish you could just stay in bed
And sleep through the holiday lying ahead,
When all celebrate with their loved ones so near...
Unless they have loved ones on this side this year.
But we're no less alive here, on the other side.
If you could just see us, you'd've laughed and not cried.
The dogs all in harness, pulling the sleigh.
The cats all in Santa hats pointing the way.
The pet birds all flying back over the rainbow,
Bound homeward in spite of Earth's darkness and snow.
All the pets that you've lost, pets for whom you've cried,
Flying home on this Christmas to be by your side.
If you feel warm fur brush you when no pet's around,
Hear a soft bark or purr, just a ghost of a sound,
We're trying to tell you we're visiting this way,
And our visits, even rainbows, can be on any day.
But for Christmas we have something special to do,
A sleighful of happy dream visits for you.
On doggy, on kitty, on winged friend and ferret!
The love that you lavished, we mean now to share it!
We're fetching that love home, the way we once played,
With the closeness we shared and the memories we made.
Our Earth lives with you were too short for us, too,
And on this Christmas Eve we have so much to do.
So all through this night as you sleep in your beds,
Sweet visions of furbabies dance in your heads.
This one special night we can bring you Home for a while,
Your true home in Heaven, where again you will smile.
Over the rainbow you'll fly, for a short while this night,
Hours that you'll be happy, hours that will feel right,
Hours to cuddle and hug us, to run and to play,
Before the return to Earth in our magic way.
And when you awaken and face Christmas Day,
We pray you'll remember your trip on our sleigh,
But in case you forget, just remember our love.
Remember us watching you, your angels above.
Sending love wrapped in rainbows, shining and bright,
Love that will guide you through the darkest night,
Love found in each memory unwrapped through the year,
Replacing dark sorrows with Christmas cheer.
Leave the toys to St. Nick, we Bridgekids bring dreams,
Sweet visits to remind you all is not as it seems
When you look all around you with tired Earthly eyes.
If you saw as we do, there'd be joy and surprise.
There are furangels waiting by those Christmas trees,
Always there for you and hearing your pleas.
We're never more than a thought away from your home,
You're never forgotten, you're never alone.
Nor are we alone here, with our Rainbow Bridge friends.
We know only joy here, the celebrating never ends,
And after our reunions with you Christmas Eve,
We Bridgekids will party like you'd never believe.
But we'll slip away often to be by your side.
Sitting there watching you, eyes open wide,
Praying you'll be able to catch a glimpse of us, too.
But whether or not you see us - Merry Christmas to you!
- Cindy Morgan (2007)"
I'm sorry, I remember how much my dog got me through the first year. He walked me. He hugged me with the devotion I needed. He was glad to see me. He was loyal to me. He taught me that I did still have the capacity to love. The OW told my husband not to bring that dog over to her house again. If I laid in bed all day so did he. Your dog was a borrowed angel sent just for you. I believe he is loaned out again to another betrayed wife. Love and hugs to you.
ReplyDeleteSteam, my heartfelt sorrow for the loss of your baby. I completely understand your pain. The loss of a furry family member is always crushing, yet coupled with your second marriage... I get that. Our furry baby is at times the glue we need. She brings us together as our love for her is consistent ... unconditional... binding.
ReplyDeleteWhen I have lost a baby before, I turn to Rainbow Bridge. I read the poem or I simply imagine and visualize them there ... now they get to meet other fur babies who have gone before them. They get to frolick in the grass and sun. And one day we shall meet again and take them to heaven with us.
Thank you for giving your puppy such a beautiful life... and know that your baby truly is happy at Rainbow Bridge. Peace be with you Dear.
Steam.
ReplyDeleteFrom one sister to another many heartfelt hugs...We are all truly blessed that we have each other through everything...We lost our "Sport" a few years ago so it will get better just like Elle tells us "It will one day get better" Thanks to everyone and hope everyone has as merry and safe Holiday as can be...
Elle, Steam and all,
ReplyDeleteI wrote a long passage and it got lost in space. Steam my heart goes out to you and your deep loss. May the New Year bring you peace. New Mom that is a lovely, lovely poem thank you for that.
Love to all the sisters in the hood!