Life happens. Love happens. Lies happen. My thoughts after a late night nightmare last night. And then I saw this today! Regrowth happens. I have a new future to look forward to and a range of articulate wise women on this site who have my back. Thank you again, Elle, for creating this peaceful place to find a new way to live with a happening that noone expects or deserves. Thank you for insights that provide sight. Thank you, thank you, thank you!
Ashley, Yep, sometimes it is hard to see. And we have a hard time trusting what we can't see. Whether this makes you "bitter" or "better" is up to you. You always have the choice about how you respond to life's blows. For now, however, just be gentle with yourself. Nurture yourself. Treat yourself the way you would a sick friend, with compassion and support. The strength is taking root.
I plan on sprinkling some fertilizer on myself - to help me grow strong and true.
Last year my garden died a painful death after I planted it lovingly. I killed it with neglect. Was too distraught to even go out and look at it. The birds ate each and every blueberry and I did not care. I have not planned anything for this year -but- tonight I was at Wal*Mart and saw some mint plants and some parsley plants. I smiled at them!! If I plant them in containers I will be able to take them with me if I decide to fly away.
BTW Elle - Luv the new background theme. Refreshing and soothing!!
You do know "manure" is fertilizer. And I think most of us have enough of THAT! I think your plan to garden your way to healing is fabulous. My dogs were instrumental in pulling (literally) me toward healing. They gave me a sliver of joy to focus on. And that sliver made me realize that if I could feel that, then it was possible that I could feel more joy as the blunt impact of the betrayal grew duller. Thanks re. my makeover. I'm not sure if I'm done yet. What do you think of the new "SuperMe" avatar to replace the pre-pubescent version of me that never aged, even when I had a friend photoshop wrinkles into it? She's all of us.
I may set this as the background on my phone. I want to believe this is true but it's so hard to believe wen it seems like each day I'm moving backwards.
Overwhelmed, Read what I wrote to Ashley above. You will get through this. I guarantee it. Hard to believe, I know. But there are literally thousands of women on this site who can attest to that. I'm just one of them. I refuse to ever say that my husband's infidelity was "good" for me. But I am able to say it absolutely brought with it lessons that I'm glad for learning.
Growing "pains" will have you believe otherwise, but it's true, it's true. Something inside you is changing and growing and in what feels like weakness you will find your truest strength. You will come out a stronger person. I have always thought that something wonderful HAD to come out of this nightmare. Whether you become "bitter or better" is a brilliant quote!
Life happens. Love happens. Lies happen. My thoughts after a late night nightmare last night. And then I saw this today! Regrowth happens. I have a new future to look forward to and a range of articulate wise women on this site who have my back.
ReplyDeleteThank you again, Elle, for creating this peaceful place to find a new way to live with a happening that noone expects or deserves. Thank you for insights that provide sight. Thank you, thank you, thank you!
I sure hope so. Sometimes hard to see with all the heartache...
ReplyDeleteAshley,
DeleteYep, sometimes it is hard to see. And we have a hard time trusting what we can't see. Whether this makes you "bitter" or "better" is up to you. You always have the choice about how you respond to life's blows.
For now, however, just be gentle with yourself. Nurture yourself. Treat yourself the way you would a sick friend, with compassion and support. The strength is taking root.
I plan on sprinkling some fertilizer on myself - to help me grow strong and true.
ReplyDeleteLast year my garden died a painful death after I planted it lovingly. I killed it with neglect. Was too distraught to even go out and look at it. The birds ate each and every blueberry and I did not care. I have not planned anything for this year -but- tonight I was at Wal*Mart and saw some mint plants and some parsley plants. I smiled at them!! If I plant them in containers I will be able to take them with me if I decide to fly away.
BTW Elle - Luv the new background theme. Refreshing and soothing!!
You do know "manure" is fertilizer. And I think most of us have enough of THAT!
DeleteI think your plan to garden your way to healing is fabulous. My dogs were instrumental in pulling (literally) me toward healing. They gave me a sliver of joy to focus on. And that sliver made me realize that if I could feel that, then it was possible that I could feel more joy as the blunt impact of the betrayal grew duller.
Thanks re. my makeover. I'm not sure if I'm done yet. What do you think of the new "SuperMe" avatar to replace the pre-pubescent version of me that never aged, even when I had a friend photoshop wrinkles into it? She's all of us.
The "SuperMe" is -- in three short words "FA - BU - LOUS" !!
DeleteStrength and Perseverance -- Luv it!!
I may set this as the background on my phone. I want to believe this is true but it's so hard to believe wen it seems like each day I'm moving backwards.
ReplyDeleteOverwhelmed,
DeleteRead what I wrote to Ashley above. You will get through this. I guarantee it. Hard to believe, I know. But there are literally thousands of women on this site who can attest to that. I'm just one of them. I refuse to ever say that my husband's infidelity was "good" for me. But I am able to say it absolutely brought with it lessons that I'm glad for learning.
Growing "pains" will have you believe otherwise, but it's true, it's true. Something inside you is changing and growing and in what feels like weakness you will find your truest strength. You will come out a stronger person. I have always thought that something wonderful HAD to come out of this nightmare. Whether you become "bitter or better" is a brilliant quote!
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