It is 6 weeks since I found out about my husbands affair. It is ended. There is no contact. He has committed to us. Chosen me. He Loves me and I love him. I have forgiven him but I continue to experience dark days and moments of overwhelming distress. I find myself in tears ringing a friend at 2 in the morning. I am in tears if anyone like a shop assistant shows me the slightest little kindness. It is and continues to be a struggle. Worse than I could possibly imagine. Betrayed and lied to by my friend , husband , lover and I thought soulmate. What is so hard is that this brief affair took place st a time of significant events - we were apart for my birthday ( he was working in another city) and most painfully over the ten days i was with my dying mother in hospital. On the day my mother died he went away for two nights and a day. Supposedly for work but I found out later when I confronted him that it was an affair. I am glad we have decided to commit and work out our relationship. And I feel his love and the shame and regret he has. But I am still distressed and feeling broken. Trying to be strong, connect and love. I have found this blog a lifesaver. Despite seeing a counsellor at times I've felt like I'm going crazy. It's so good to read I am not alone. I'm not mad. What I feel is normal given what has happened. And I can and we can get better. Love to all of you wonderful women
Mary Mac, I can feel your emotion in your post. I am so sorry for what you are experiencing. I am 7 mos from Dday (my Dday was a decade after H ended the A). I am happy to hear your H got a wake-up call and has recommitted to you. You mentioned seeing a counselor - I hope you are going as a couple as well as individuals. He needs to learn the underlying psychological issues that allowed him to make such bad decisions. If only they knew what the aftermath would be like I think a lot less married men would cheat. It has cost us happiness, time, money and so much more. Sending a virtual hug to you.
It is 6 weeks since I found out about my husbands affair. It is ended. There is no contact. He has committed to us. Chosen me. He Loves me and I love him. I have forgiven him but I continue to experience dark days and moments of overwhelming distress. I find myself in tears ringing a friend at 2 in the morning. I am in tears if anyone like a shop assistant shows me the slightest little kindness. It is and continues to be a struggle. Worse than I could possibly imagine. Betrayed and lied to by my friend , husband , lover and I thought soulmate. What is so hard is that this brief affair took place st a time of significant events - we were apart for my birthday ( he was working in another city) and most painfully over the ten days i was with my dying mother in hospital. On the day my mother died he went away for two nights and a day. Supposedly for work but I found out later when I confronted him that it was an affair. I am glad we have decided to commit and work out our relationship. And I feel his love and the shame and regret he has. But I am still distressed and feeling broken. Trying to be strong, connect and love. I have found this blog a lifesaver. Despite seeing a counsellor at times I've felt like I'm going crazy. It's so good to read I am not alone. I'm not mad. What I feel is normal given what has happened. And I can and we can get better. Love to all of you wonderful women
ReplyDeleteMary Mac, I can feel your emotion in your post. I am so sorry for what you are experiencing. I am 7 mos from Dday (my Dday was a decade after H ended the A). I am happy to hear your H got a wake-up call and has recommitted to you. You mentioned seeing a counselor - I hope you are going as a couple as well as individuals. He needs to learn the underlying psychological issues that allowed him to make such bad decisions. If only they knew what the aftermath would be like I think a lot less married men would cheat. It has cost us happiness, time, money and so much more. Sending a virtual hug to you.
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