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Ya.im one off them ...but watch this fuckinggggg space LL
"Of course I had to pull out so she wouldn't get pregnant."He was nipped after our third child!PISS - Post Infidelity Shit Storm!
"I had a dream where you were sitting on another man's lap kissing him and looking at me." When he woke up he was all over me. All I could think of was, this was a dream, imagining this in real life. How easily he forgets.
Me: Why did you even move into my house if you were already cheating on me? Why didn't you just stay where you were?Him: Because I thought we were secure, that we were in a good place, so I could just keep doing what I was doing. :headondesk:
Him: "If you were to forgive me and we were to reconcile I would lose all respect for you and treat you worse."This from a man who cheated on me since before we married (I just found out). So this is how you treat a woman that you respect?!Other things he's said since I found out: "I haven't been having as much sex as you think." (he's been having more than me!)"If it makes you feel better, I didn't do exactly well there either" (referring to his ED problems, and no it doesn't make me feel better, the intent was still there. Is he saying that the only thing that stopped him was a medical issue rather than his conscience?)
I want to say first of all me and my spouse are working things out but I heard:I was curious (3 separate interactions over a 2 month period, allegedly)My intention was never to hurt youHe has the utmost respect for youI wanted to tell youI never left youThere is more but replaying them brings up the anger
I enjoy the "I don't know if this matters but I thought about ending it." Actually that makes it worse, you thought about ending it but didn't... you chose her instead.
after D-Day, wasband decided to hate his mistress-of-four-years...he said to me 'well, it (the affair) was on its way out anyway'...after a few months of D-Day he ran into her somewhere and told me afterwards 'she didn't look very good'.... REALLY? Like I care?? I am so glad i kicked him out on D-Day...
I thought you didn't love me anymoreWhat do you mean you're waiting for the other shoe to drop? What's the other shoe? (Found out a month later he wasn't just sexting with the OW and confiding in her about marriage issues, they did in fact kiss [which he claims is all that happened;it adds up but there's been so much lying I don't trust my instincts]). When I told him if the OW had still been working with him (she quit at the end of the school year, I found out the following December) that I wouldn't be okay with them working together and would ask him to transfer schools he responded with "I have not only a bachelor's but a masters degree and she was a secretary so I wouldn't be going anywhere. She can go. " okay buddy, enjoy explaining to your principal that his secretary needs to be moved jobs because you guys had an affair.
The list of shit I heard:-Maybe if you were more fun I wouldn't go look else where-It's just dom shit-It's in the past, I said sorry. You going to keep on?-I promise to be better.-It's nothing.-She did things to me. I done nothing to her.-Nothing happened. I promise.
After the first 7 D-Days I separated from my husband after he quit therapy which was a boundary of mine to stay in the marriage. As he walked out the door he asked if we were going to be monogamous. I said yes. When I found out he had joined dating sites and was dating I asked him what happened to being monogamous? He said “I didn’t know what monogamous meant”This is the same guy who when I asked him if he had intercourse with all these prostitutes he had hired (because I had been hearing it was only hand jobs and I wasn’t buying it) and he said and I quote” Intercourse is a gray area” Can someone please explain to me the gray area because all I know is in or out.
My husband cheated and this isn't the first time. First, Vegas with a 5000.00 stripper. Next was a video model who he had live conversations and texting back and forth. That was back in 2017. For the past 2 weeks he has been envolved with another girl online, videos, texting, phone calls. He confessed. He also confessed that for the past 2 months he's been in the massage parlors for tugs and full intercourse. I am so numb and heart broken. I'm going to stay. I won't let this tear spsrt us or our family. I'm so heart broken. I just want the pain and images to go away. How long this will take? How do I cope? 😭
Hello I have been with my h for 10 years and he cheated on me with my step daughters friend very young. I tried to reached him for 3 days while he was away working, no answer. He finally told me but kids knew before me.I have been trying to fight for my marriage to find out he says he wants it too to go away with him and act like nothing happened for have him time to get past it, just to find out he is still wanting to see this girl, texting, buying her things, dinners, flowers, gifts, hotels. He makes plans to see her while I am with him fighting for this marriage but he still loves me but lied straight to my face when asked if there was anything anything more I needed to know. LIES LIES LIES.How can I recover from this.......
Take your time. your healing, your timeline. At one point I heard the 'But you were ambiguous!' Really? these guys will say anything to avoid our anger.
"If I hadn't lied about it you would have ended it with me and you would never have had these beautiful children we created."Ok so, um, thank you??
Man, I hear that right now.
I have a good one! Husband: One time I forgot to take my wedding ring off and when I noticed it really bothered me. Me: What?????? oh so it didn’t bother you, you were married and screwing another woman, just the reminder you were married and screwing another woman? Makes sense to me (eye roll). By the way, I took the ring away. It was never intended to be taken off and on for the purpose of infidelity.
The shit that comes out of them. These are a few I got handed. 1] You were ambiguous about Porn. we had a hard and fast rule, NO PORN! How is this abiguous? 2] I didn't think about what I was doing. That's because if he did, he would have felt "bad". Aww no happy ending when guilt rears its ugly head. There is more. Just what worm has eaten our H's brain?
As to all the TLC, gifts, attention, heartfelt notes, poetic wisdom: “It was a game; I was proving I could be a good man”In response to was she worth it? “I was never thinking of losing our marriage or hurting you or our kids; it was never about me wanting to get out of our marriage”As to why the bazillion texts: “All we talked about was how how hard it is to measure up to high standards”As to why he didn’t end it when I found out: “She started it, I was going to end it but she was in such a dark place and I tried to let it end gently”As to if this was a Godly man’s action “well, God would want you to show me mercy”