Yes, I know it! But I feel like I need a safe space and somebody to care for me while I face the replacement of these 'wrong' things (work, busyness, caring for others) with some alternatives. I'm afraid everything will come crashing down if I stop. Though I suppose I might come crashing down if I don't stop...
Exactly Elle! I was trying so hard to keep my marriage and family together at the expense of myself. All the energy I was putting into a lifeless soul of my STBX who was draining me with his lies and shitty behavior. In many ways with him gone it feels like a weight has lifted off my shoulders. Hugs Gabby xo
This is so true and I have to remind myself of this all the time. Any energy thinking of my H is wasted! Any energy looking online at social media is wasted! Any energy texting my H and trying to get him to understand my side is wasted. It all makes me feel so empty and yucky.
When I work out, when I substitute Teach, when I clean and organize things and fix things and help my kids - that is what fills me up - that is what makes me feel good!
Yes, I know it! But I feel like I need a safe space and somebody to care for me while I face the replacement of these 'wrong' things (work, busyness, caring for others) with some alternatives. I'm afraid everything will come crashing down if I stop. Though I suppose I might come crashing down if I don't stop...
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ReplyDeleteI was trying so hard to keep my marriage and family together at the expense of myself.
All the energy I was putting into a lifeless soul of my STBX who was draining me with his lies and shitty behavior.
In many ways with him gone it feels like a weight has lifted off my shoulders.
Hugs
Gabby xo
This is so true and I have to remind myself of this all the time. Any energy thinking of my H is wasted! Any energy looking online at social media is wasted! Any energy texting my H and trying to get him to understand my side is wasted. It all makes me feel so empty and yucky.
ReplyDeleteWhen I work out, when I substitute Teach, when I clean and organize things and fix things and help my kids - that is what fills me up - that is what makes me feel good!
Ann, so pleased your finding things that ‘ fill you up’ this is exactly what you need to be concentrating more on. Your on the right track Ann : ) xxx
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