I have often wondered how much of me going through menopause has to do with not healing as fast. I think it makes it harder on us to deal with both. Looking in the mirror and your self esteem takes a big nose dive because you don't feel like you look the same. Your body changes from losing the weight at the beginning and then gaining it all back plus a little more. You find more lines on your face that weren't there the day before. How much of going through this at the same time makes us even more unbalanced in our minds. Just a thought. Cathy
Cathy, I think that absolutely plays a role. Menopause is really tough, particularly for some women. Feeling betrayed by our bodies, by our faces, by time! Then the marital betrayal as well. It's a lot to deal with and all of it affects how we perceive ourselves and how we're perceived. Then our memories are impacted, our ability to organize our thoughts. I listened to a comedian talking about climbing Mount Menopause and how hard it is. But she pointed to a few silver linings, such as tossing anyone who's become extra weight in your life. She says the foothills of Mount Menopause are littered with people who no longer deserve to be there for the climb. ;)
I was feeling really off when asked about menopause because I am going through it right now. My husband and I were talking and I told him how I felt guilty for feeling sympathy and empathy for the OW. Not totally understanding why I felt this way. I told him that maybe it's just my hormones that are making me feel this way right now, the emotions tend to fluctuate just like the hot flashes I endured. When she called me an old hag, (I'm 56 and she is 38) it really bothered me but I didn't let her know that and answered her with "I'd rather be an old hag then have to look in the mirror everyday being her". I never heard from her again. I guess now she can be left on that mountain like the trash she is.. Cathy
I have often wondered how much of me going through menopause has to do with not healing as fast. I think it makes it harder on us to deal with both. Looking in the mirror and your self esteem takes a big nose dive because you don't feel like you look the same. Your body changes from losing the weight at the beginning and then gaining it all back plus a little more. You find more lines on your face that weren't there the day before. How much of going through this at the same time makes us even more unbalanced in our minds. Just a thought.
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Cathy,
DeleteI think that absolutely plays a role. Menopause is really tough, particularly for some women. Feeling betrayed by our bodies, by our faces, by time! Then the marital betrayal as well. It's a lot to deal with and all of it affects how we perceive ourselves and how we're perceived. Then our memories are impacted, our ability to organize our thoughts. I listened to a comedian talking about climbing Mount Menopause and how hard it is. But she pointed to a few silver linings, such as tossing anyone who's become extra weight in your life. She says the foothills of Mount Menopause are littered with people who no longer deserve to be there for the climb. ;)
I was feeling really off when asked about menopause because I am going through it right now. My husband and I were talking and I told him how I felt guilty for feeling sympathy and empathy for the OW. Not totally understanding why I felt this way. I told him that maybe it's just my hormones that are making me feel this way right now, the emotions tend to fluctuate just like the hot flashes I endured. When she called me an old hag, (I'm 56 and she is 38) it really bothered me but I didn't let her know that and answered her with "I'd rather be an old hag then have to look in the mirror everyday being her". I never heard from her again. I guess now she can be left on that mountain like the trash she is..
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