You don't engage. If he is picking fights with you after he's been outed for cheating, it seems clear that he's not healthy enough to be in a relationship with. You'll see at the top of this site, "My heartbreak, my rules." In the wake of discovering infidelity, you get to set the rules for reconciliation. If he refuses to follow them – which include not picking fights with you but instead supporting you and comforting you in your pain – then he's telling you he's not willing to work for your relationship. Unless he changes, the relationship is doomed, whether there's more infidelity or not.
I'm so sorry, Sirena. But if you have proof, you don't need to him to admit it. You can nonetheless choose to move forward based on the truth, not what he will admit to be true. Don't ask him...tell him what you plan to do, moving forward. Take as much time as you need to figure it out (but please, protect yourself if you're continuing to have sex with him). You will get through this.
What do you do when the person who wrongs you chooses to pick the fights with you daily? How do you stand your ground and not get pulled down?
ReplyDeleteYou don't engage. If he is picking fights with you after he's been outed for cheating, it seems clear that he's not healthy enough to be in a relationship with. You'll see at the top of this site, "My heartbreak, my rules." In the wake of discovering infidelity, you get to set the rules for reconciliation. If he refuses to follow them – which include not picking fights with you but instead supporting you and comforting you in your pain – then he's telling you he's not willing to work for your relationship. Unless he changes, the relationship is doomed, whether there's more infidelity or not.
DeleteMy husband is cheating. He would rather die than admit it. I have proof.
ReplyDeleteI'm so sorry, Sirena. But if you have proof, you don't need to him to admit it. You can nonetheless choose to move forward based on the truth, not what he will admit to be true. Don't ask him...tell him what you plan to do, moving forward. Take as much time as you need to figure it out (but please, protect yourself if you're continuing to have sex with him). You will get through this.
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